Transition meeting

Hello everyone,
Whilst Ive got a minute thought I would update with how we got on with our transition meeting at nursery.
I wasn't sure at all what to expect as obviously Ive never had to go to anything like this with the other children. Luckily I had taken my dad with me as it would have been a little intimidating if I hadn't I think. I'm not great in these types of situations, although I must say I'm getting better lately at standing my ground and being able to fight my own corner instead of crawling under a rock!
Anyhoo, we discussed his needs and what we feel would be best for him. Mainstream was being banded around a couple of times, which when first said sounds wonderful and exciting and it would be very easy for us to overlook whats probably best for him with the prospect of him going to mainstream. Since his progression has been so fabulous since he started at the resourced nursery we feel that for him to continue with the same care is for the best.
He will be assessed every 12 months anyway which is great as maybe after the first 12 months he will have progressed enough to attend the school where his sisters go.
We are hoping for a mainstream school with a special unit attached to it.
I have a couple of main concerns about the mainstream route. Jack has a tendency to get pushed around by other children and instead of either crying and running away or fighting back, he just gets up and carries on. I think other children just see him as the weak one. Normal in children of this age.
Also we feel that because he is such a good little boy and causes no trouble. He could well get 'forgotten' about.
I think also the thing that we all need to keep in our minds is that because there is no literature to read about his condition, we have absolutely no way of knowing whether there will be a plateau to his learning.
So in an ideal world he will go to the special unit first. If he does this and then becomes ready got the school his sisters go to he will slip straight in as he already knows the school and most of the teachers and also his sisters would look after him. If he had started at the mainstream and then it being realised that he wasn't ready, the move to then another school he didn't know would be far far worse.
So paperwork is in and we are on a waiting game.